Top 52 Quotes of John Grant

When I was young, people were so disgusted by me. Before I even knew that I was gay… everybody else had it figured out and, you know, they were letting you know.

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When I reached my senior year in high school, I fell into a hole that took a couple of decades to get out of.

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When I got into languages, I needed to amass things to make myself more palatable or more acceptable as a human.

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There’s an incredible amount of pain involved in being a human, but this humorous stuff is essential in overcoming it.

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The snappier lyrics come when I’m feeling really good and up. A lot of times, they come after I’ve just had a meeting with somebody that was uplifting, and you get home, and you’re feeling playful or upbeat or whatever, and then they just seem to pop right out.

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The most horrifying thing I ever did was work as a steward on an airplane. I wanted to get hired by United. I thought, ‘With my languages, this will be amazing; I will work in First Class.’ But I could only get a job with an airline going from Newark, New Jersey to Fort Lauderdale, Florida.

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The first 20 years had such a profound effect on me, I spent the next 20 dealing with them.

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That inner narrative – the desire to understand the way I am – never really switches off.

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Reykjavik has a mixture of southern and northern mentality. There’s a laid-back, relaxed attitude but also the feeling things are going to get done.

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Part of what I do, after feeling invisible for a long time, is make an effort not to be invisible any more.

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My music is definitely very personal. The songs are about moments, snapshots of everyday life, and about having one’s say, or at least feeling like one has had one’s say.

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My mother was a very sweet soul and a beautiful person, but she had a lot of fear.

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Me becoming a person, instead of somebody who just hides and is afraid, has happened in tandem with me learning to write music and become a good songwriter.

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I’ve kept most of my friends for decades, and I continue to make new friends.

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It took me a long time to find my own voice, even after I started making my own music.

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It really was an amazing thing when Midlake brought me down to Texas and created an atmosphere in which I felt really safe and was able to do whatever I wanted artistically.

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In my family, I was loved, but only if I would fight this gay thing and not let it take over me. I would be loved unconditionally if I could be cured of my ‘sickness,’ but it certainly would not be OK if I couldn’t.

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I’m very proud that I have learned German and Russian. Especially Russian, because of how difficult and beautiful it is and because of how much I struggled in the beginning to get my head around how it works.

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I’m quite gregarious. But when it comes to relationships, I mean, I’m no good at it. I suck at it. And people say I’m way too hard on myself, but I always feel like somebody else is going to say it if I don’t. Why not just beat them to the punch so it doesn’t hurt so much?

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I’m not saying that I don’t have skills. I’m saying I don’t feel like I can use my skills to achieve self-esteem. I feel like it’s cheating. I think that I should have self-esteem simply because I am a human being who deserves love and deserves everything just as much or just as little as everyone else.

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I’m angry because I was so scared for so many years about just being myself.

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I’m a seriously flawed individual, but I guess everybody is.

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If I’m honest, I suppose there’s something I don’t want people to see in my eyes. They really are the window to the soul.

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Icelanders love to speak English. Their English is a joy to hear because of how colloquial and idiomatic it is, but they appreciate your efforts with Icelandic.

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I would love to be part of a community.

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I was so ashamed of who I was. And I also felt like an outcast in gay society as well because I wasn’t good-looking enough; my body wasn’t good enough.

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I think the thing that I find the most difficult to talk about is religion.

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I think The Czars had an identity crisis, as we were five guys pulling in different musical directions.

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I still deal with triggers and neuroses that I’ve developed over the decades. But I do think I have a great amount of compassion for people who feel that they don’t fit in, or people who feel they have trouble finding their place in this world.

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I spend a lot of my time just looking at words and grammar and writing things down that I don’t know.

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I realized that a lot of the things I had been telling myself about not being good enough just weren’t true, and ‘Queen of Denmark’ gave me the chance to prove to myself that I could do something real.

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I overthink everything.

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I love that phrase that parents say to their children when they cry: ‘I’ll give you something to cry about.’

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I love a lot of different styles, but my heart belongs in electronic music.

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I know I’m likeable, but living with me is different. Yes, I can be charming. That desire to please people and learning what to do to charm their socks off is something many of us do. But you get into a relationship, and the party’s over at some point. They see the real you.

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I just felt that I was going to fall apart if I didn’t learn to be myself.

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I just feel like this guy who’s visiting the music business over the weekend. Every time I write a song, I feel like it’s never going to happen again.

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I have trouble with things like Facebook. It presents such a warped vision. I get sick of people’s opinions about every little thing and this warped view that everyone is as happy as a pig in garbage.

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I grew up singing in a church choir.

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I felt like a failure for so long because I wasn’t able to access myself in the way I knew I would have if I was going to make music that mattered. I knew I was going to have to learn how to be honest.

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I don’t really listen to my old music.

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I don’t let the computer into my bedroom. It would get in the way of life, sleep. And I really can’t let that happen.

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I don’t feel like I’m writing music for gay people. I’m a gay man who is writing music about one tiny little experience of what it’s like to be a human on this planet.

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I do feel I have a hard time dealing with things being OK.

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I could probably use some tips from a vocal trainer or something about breathing, but we all know it’s not about technical prowess.

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I could have easily said that I don’t believe in anything when I came out of the upbringing that I had, but I do still believe that there is something there, and I have a difficult time figuring it out. I suppose I don’t want to be thought of as stupid or unintelligent because I believe that there’s something out there bigger than us in the world.

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I come from a position where it seems like I have an addictive quality to everything in my life.

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I can’t create music if I’m wearing a mask and not being myself, and that was the problem with The Czars.

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I can’t allow myself to censor myself.

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For me, every single thing I do seems to be about the process of letting go because that’s what I so desperately need to do with so many things: with fear, with what people think of me, and all these things I’ve worried about my whole life.

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Being in school, whenever I laughed or smiled, I would turn to find someone staring at me with this terrible hatred and disgust. I had to control everything – control my voice, control my facial expressions, control my hair and my clothes, and where I walked and where I sat – at every moment. I think that drove me to terrible anxiety.

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Becoming a musician was all about escape. It was about getting away from the foulness that was me.

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